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A few years ago I went through an incredible tough time in my life. I was dealing with past issues along with significant changes in my career and family. I felt lost and questioned the plans I had made for the future. Also I realized I was so focused on caring for others needs that I no longer took the time to ask what are God’s plan for me? It was time for me to start living my life with the purpose God had for me according to my unique interests and skills. I needed to discover truly me, who I was without my family and career roles.
So how does one start when you are lost? Honestly I first spent some time on Pinterest creating boards of items I liked or enjoyed. It help me identify what I prefer in home decorating and clothes but that felt so . . . superficial.
Then I sorted through my personality and career resources on a whim. I took different types of assessments, questionnaires and quizzes for a fresh look at my passions, gifts and skills. I also journaled a great deal writing down the issues I need to address and my personal growth.
From this process came a phrase that has become important, “Truly Me”. I began recording my notes under this title with the goal to discover and accept who God truly made me to be.
If you are in a similar position, realizing in the midst of life you have lost yourself, I have some ideas to help you be “Truly You”.
Please note: This post is for general information purposes based on my personal experience and are not intended and should not be taken as professional or medical advice.
Journal to Discover Truly Me
This is a crucial step. Write down your thoughts, feelings and concerns in this moment of life. Make note of the difference between what you feel and what is reality. Review your journal for any statements which are a lie about yourself and write down the truth. For example, if you wrote, “I’m not talented in anything” write a new sentence such as, “I am very good at creating healthy meals and connecting with people” or whatever you are good at. A great companion for your journaling is the Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. The author helps you answer the question, “What on Earth am I here for?”. There is a short section for each day you can read and then journal about. If you do not like to write, consider creating a junk journal or smash book with personal items, quotes and images of your thoughts.
I highly encourage you to share the discover Truly Me insights with your significant other and close trusted friends. This will allow them to join in your process but also adjust to the new changes in you. This was beneficial in our marriage so as I felt free to be the person I am, my husband grew with me in the process and not away from me.
Create a list of your favorite quotes, hobbies, foods, places to visit, TV shows, books/magazines, etc. Consider creating Pinterest boards of your favorite items. As you create these lists you will see how unique you are, no one else has the exact same interests.
Do you know your personality type? If not I believe it is important to learn how you uniquely perceive and respond to your world. My favorite personality assessment is the Myers-Brigg personality test which covers 16 different personality types. You can complete your free assessments at 16 Personalities and Humanmetrics. After completing an assessment you will receive a four letter code, such as ISTJ (Introverted Sensing Thinking Judging). Once you know your personality type, begin researching how your type impacts careers, relating to others and personal growth. One great place to start is the Personality Page.
One of my favorite tools for careers is the Holland Code. This quiz helps you identify your strongest career interests under from the following categories: Realistic, Investigative, Artistic, Social, Enterprising, and Conventional. Imagine having a career or volunteer position which matches your interest areas, you will be more content and productive in your job. You can complete a free quiz at Truity.
While working at a college I came across the LifeKeys program and was impressed. It is bibilically based method in discovering your purpose. I believe the website states it best:
“LifeKeys is a spiritually-based program that gives you a multi-faceted approach to understanding your meaning and purpose. At its foundation is the belief that understanding what to do with your talents and gifts isn’t enough. Giving both individuals and teams a sense of meaning or mission calls first for appreciation of their gifts and then alignment with causes or purposes that motivate action.”
These are the two resources I have used with this program, the book and the workbook:
Bring it all together
After I finished this process I wanted to remind myself what I discovered so I created a “Truly Me” board (see below) and hung it on my wall as a reminder. This is something you can do on a bulletin board or a journal. I used cards from my Project Life kit to write down and display all I had learned.
Now it is your turn. Do you need discover Truly Me and find your purpose? Do you need to take a “Truly Me” journey? There is no reason not to begin today. If you decide to take this journey please send me an email and let me know would love to encourage you.
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